I’ve just had a LONG hiatus from social media (Twitter and Facebook). I was off from August 23rd until today. When I got back on, withing 5 minutes I just felt really bad. Like I can’t even explain it. (This effect was Facebook-specific) The place just makes me feel bad. And it isn’t any particular “negativity” on it. I have locked down the way I do things so hard VERY little negative stressful bullshit can even get to me. But there is background things in just the way the site is set up. Then there is the frustration of almost nobody seeing anything, particularly if the facebook algorithm gods don’t like something you’ve said. I made a post today in my group that reached ONE person after 20 minutes. Here it is:
I deleted my facebook page. A few months ago, FB decided that I had too many people on my page to use it without giving FB my phone number and F those Mother Fer’s forever. I am DONE. No more of this shit. Then I released the Game Maker without the help or use of facebook (since I sincerely doubt my few people seeing stuff in the group really impacted my sales in any way. Everybody who is in here for the most part also has other ways of finding out about my books)… Game Maker did really well, better than Perfection which was the last one I utilized FB for, even with the rafflecopter giveaways.
The result of FB choking everybody’s reach is that nobody’s promoting of anything or sharing of anything really reaches much of anybody anymore so basically everyone is speaking into a void and getting pissed off about all the things that slip through everybody else’s void to them.
So I have happily deleted my FB page. I will leave the group up for now, but generally it’s just going to be a release week thing for me being here. I really don’t feel good being here (like seriously just a few minutes and I already start to feel icky. And it isn’t even negative stuff because I just came to my own group. This place just… creates an anxious feeling in my body. I don’t like it. I don’t like social media at all. So my availability will be VERY minimal. Please use my website contact form if you need to contact me. And I am going to be moving most things to my blog and newsletter. thanks ❤
Also The Proposal comes out Oct. 14th. Be sure to be subbed to my blog because I will be posting some teasers there.
And I think honestly I’m mostly just done with FB period. I’m not deleting my entire account (yet) but I do think I may experiment with not being on FB (even the group, which is the last piece I have) for this next book release. If it’s not going to make me starve and die in a ditch I just want to leave.
Like here is the thing, I understand some readers love facebook and they feel annoyed if I don’t want to be there or if I don’t ‘go there, but it’s not as though you can’t reach me or talk to me. I have a blog. I have a contact form. I’m very accessible. But i HATE facebook.
FB has become unuseable, toxic, and just plain unpleasant. So please subscribe to the blog if you want updates from me. And/or the newsletter. That is how you will be hearing about things from me. I doubt you’ll hear things from me on social media. Because if I’m there, 3 people see what i post and it’s so fucking frustrating. So I’m just done. I’m done catering to this bullshit because all it took was five minutes even ON social media (with no major obvious negativity since I was just on my group), and I don’t know… I just hate the way the place makes me feel I’m going to just listen to and respect my own feelings about this.
It’s bad enough that if I felt like I truly HAD to be on social media in order to be an author, I would just quit writing altogether because it makes me THAT unhappy.
I’m happy to interact with you here. I’m happy to reply to you if you respond to a newsletter. I’m happy to reply to you via my contact form on the website. So I am accessible. But I am not doing this social media bullshit anymore. I’m not saying I will never post anything anywhere but I’m not going to force myself to be somewhere I do not want to be for people who aren’t actually interested enough in what I’m doing to come to me for it in venues that don’t make me miserable.
(I do post updates on my Goodreads page. Not sure why that doesn’t give me the same icky feeling, but it doesn’t. I also will probably post on Twitter some. Again, Twitter is just easier for me to navigate. There is the issue with post reach but I can just basically not be following anybody and just post updates and interact with those who respond. Though I will say sometimes Twitter hides my mentions so someone can reply to me and I might not see it. So it’s still not “ideal” but better than FB.)
ETA: To be clear, I’m NOT deleting the FB group. Readers can interact with each other on the group. I’m just saying that’s not a great way to interact with ME, not because I’m some “snob” or inaccessible but because FB in general just makes me that unhappy. And honestly a happy author is an author that writes you more books. I’ve done FOUR books this year. I couldn’t have done that if I’d paid much attention to social media.